288: Should You Date Your 'Type'? (The Truth No One Tells You)

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 19 March 2025

⏱️ 72 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey have a candid conversation about whether dating your "type" is actually helping or hurting your chances of finding love.

Topics include:

Are you stuck dating your "type"?

How being overly attached to your type can blind you to better matches
The difference between chemistry, compatibility, and long-term happiness
Why your “type” might be based on old patterns or insecurities

The modern fear of commitment:

How people get stuck in relationship “TV shows” (endless flings) instead of committing to the “movie” (deep relationships)
Practical signs you or someone else is afraid of committing

The dating app “Hobby Dilemma”:

How people feel pressured to showcase impressive hobbies
Why not everyone fits the “hobby highlight reel” and why that’s okay

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0:00.0	Stephen, you did a stand-up set recently.
0:07.4	I did. I did my first ever stand-up comedy set.
0:10.3	Now, I watched this stand-up set for the first time over the weekend on video.
0:14.3	Audrey and I both watched it.
0:15.8	It was very good.
0:16.8	Thank you.
0:17.3	I was very, very impressed.
0:18.8	You had no business being that good in your first stand-up set. Thank you. There was very, very impressed. You had no business being that good in your first stand-up set.
0:22.2	Thank you. There was a moment where you talked about how on dating apps, people are all looking for you to have hobbies.
0:33.4	And you expressed your frustration back when you were on the apps about needing to sort of verbalize a hobby that didn't even really exist because you don't associate with having lots of hobbies.
0:47.1	Yeah. People want people with very active hobbies. Now what would you say your hobby is?
0:52.9	Going to the movies.
0:56.0	Does that count?
0:57.1	Yeah, it counts.
0:59.1	I'm very committed moviegoer.
1:00.2	I have an AMC membership.
1:03.9	I can go every week and I get to see as many movies as I want.
1:08.1	Now, a lot of people these days, they struggle to commit to a whole movie.
1:10.6	It feels like too much. They'd rather settle for a TV show where they can
1:14.4	just watch, come in and out, dip in 30 minutes, get out again. Something about this day and age
1:20.0	makes people afraid to commit to two hours of sitting down and being present with one thing. And this reminds me of the big
1:31.6	problem in dating right now. That the same way that people struggle to sit down and watch a
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