All right, are we ready for this one? Let's reset your fear of being judged.

Oh, this is going to be a lot. I'm so excited.

I've got my notes over here sitting in front of me, but I really just want to start this episode,

swing it, so let's just go for it. The only reason you have fear around being judged by others is because you're assuming there will only be a negative judgment.

The truth is you never know what someone is actually thinking about you.

It's the same reason people are scared of the dark. The dark itself is not scary.

People are scared of what they assume is in the dark. If you think there's scary ghosts in the dark, you're going to be scared of the dark.

Same thing with judgment. If you assume people are only looking at you to judge you negatively,

of course you're going to be scared of it. of course you're not going to want it, but it's an unknown.

People are not always looking at you to judge you harshly and judge you negatively, but just opening

up to that perspective that both exist already brings relief.

But we're not going to stop there.

We've got to keep going.

I have a lot of points to get through.

And I do want to touch on why people start to assume judgment is only negative and

being around people they are only looking at you negatively a lot of people grow up

with parents who nitpick them and only ever see what is wrong.

So from a young age you're used to walking in somewhere

and having the one defect or the one flaw points it out.

People seem to only be looking at you to judge you and to make

funny or they find the one thing wrong. Like you come out in a perfect outfit you did

your hair right. This doesn't apply to me. I don't have hair. When I did have

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