#362: tiny talk: When They Don’t Want to Claim You, But Keep You in Their Orbit

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🗓️ 22 January 2025

⏱️ 4 minutes

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Summary

Introducing the first of "trina's tiny talks" ... bite-sized episodes, packed with punch!

In this tiny talk, I tackle a situation that’s all too common: when someone tells you they don’t want to be with you, but still keeps you "hanging around."

And yes, I break it down with a lil tough love so you can stop making excuses for your involvement with them and stop being stuck in a cycle of self-deception.

Quick, straight to the point, and filled with REAL TALK. Don’t miss this one!

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0:00.0	There's always time for Trina's Tiny Talks, bite-size episodes packed with punch that'll knock some sense into you.
0:09.0	I'll let her know you're here. Hang tight for a sec.
0:13.0	Hey guys, today's Tiny Talk topic is when they don't want to claim you, but keep you around in their orbit.
0:22.3	This is an extremely common issue, so I'm here to set you straight so that you don't have any excuses why you would go along with a situation like this.
0:31.7	When someone tells you that they don't want to be with you, but they still keep you around? Please, please, please, don't make it
0:39.7	seem confusing, okay? It's like getting fired from a job, only to then keep showing up every
0:46.1	day to work for free and then saying that you're so confused because no money got deposited
0:52.4	in your account on Friday. It's being dumped, still hooking up with
0:57.4	them, then wondering why they don't want to hold your hand in public. It's called avoiding reality,
1:03.9	being in denial, and giving yourself reasons to stay stuck in a situation that's already given you the answer. Because honey,
1:13.1	you're going to look desperate and feel like crap. If someone doesn't want to claim you and commit to
1:19.1	you, does that mean they're crazy about you? Does that mean they can't stop thinking about you?
1:26.2	No, no one who is super into you keeps you on the side
1:29.6	or on standby. This is not rocket science, so let's not act like it is. They see was good for
1:37.2	something, convenience, a nice filler. You hear what I'm saying? So in other words, you need to give your intelligence a little more credit.
1:48.0	Because the truth is, you're not confused.
1:51.5	You know what's going on.
1:52.9	You just tell yourself that you're confused so that you have an excuse to not completely detach.
2:00.0	And no, they're not conflicted about their feelings for you.
2:05.2	And no, they're not terrified at how much they like you. And please don't convince yourself that they
2:12.4	just aren't ready. Child, please. They're keeping you on the back burner because they can, and why can they do that?
2:21.9	Well, because you are allowing it. You are allowing it. You're making this so easy for them.
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