369: How to Move Past Shame
Take a Break from Drinking
Rachel Hart
4.8 • 2.7K Ratings
🗓️ 13 February 2024
⏱️ 14 minutes
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Summary
Shame and regret about your drinking can feel so isolating, but it’s way more common than you think. The real problem is the unconscious ways you might find yourself trying to make up for being “bad.”
It’s easy to spin on questions like, “Why was I so stupid?” or “When am I going to learn my lesson?” Or to wish you could build a time machine and change the past. But this line of thinking is a trap.
Discover the thought error around shame that is actually keeping you stuck and preventing you from developing a healthy relationship with alcohol.
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to the Take a Break Podcast with Rachel Heart, episode 369. |
| 0:05.0 | Whether you want to drink less or stop drinking, this podcast will help you change the habit from the inside out. |
| 0:13.0 | We're challenging conventional wisdom about why people drink |
| 0:17.0 | and why it can be hard to resist temptation. |
| 0:20.0 | No labels, no judgment, just practical tools to take control of your desire and stop worrying |
| 0:26.4 | about your drinking. Now here's your host Rachel Hart. |
| 0:30.0 | All right everybody listen. I had a little epiphany about shame the other day that I really |
| 0:37.0 | want to share with all of you because there can be so much shame mixed up in the desire to drink and how much you drink and broken |
| 0:45.8 | commitments and struggling to find a solution and I will just tell you this I know |
| 0:50.5 | that I had a ton of shame around my drinking. And what I have seen both in my own experience |
| 0:59.2 | and in my years of working with so many people is that the shame that we feel most often comes up |
| 1:06.2 | from the questions that we silently ask ourselves, why is it so hard for me to say no? |
| 1:11.1 | Why can't I learn my lesson? Why do I have all these good |
| 1:14.7 | reasons to cut back or to not drink and still I keep giving in? Why was I so |
| 1:20.3 | stupid? These questions, they don't create the shame, they're just a jumping off point for our |
| 1:27.2 | brain. The shame is created in the answer that the brain offers for these questions. |
| 1:34.0 | Answers that sound like there's something wrong with me. |
| 1:37.0 | Something about me is different. |
| 1:38.0 | Something about my brain is different. |
| 1:40.0 | I'm missing something that other people have. |
| 1:42.0 | I'm broken. So listen, I have spent a lot of time on the |
| 1:45.8 | podcast breaking down how none of these things are true, that's not what's going on, there's nothing |
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