371. Stop Fetishizing Systemic Change or Your Brain in Denmark
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
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🗓️ 5 December 2024
⏱️ 17 minutes
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Summary
Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about how much better your life would be if you lived in a country with more progressive policies? Universal healthcare, affordable childcare, endless vacation days—it sounds like paradise, right? I know I’ve been there. But is the grass really greener, or is this just another sneaky way our brains trick us into thinking the solution is somewhere “out there”?
In this episode, I’ll show you why fantasizing about a “better” life elsewhere might actually be holding you back—and how you can start rewiring your brain to create change wherever you are, no passport required.
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| 0:00.0 | Y'all cannot imagine how long it took me to title this podcast because I wanted to fit the |
| 0:05.4 | entire concept and all my disclaimers into the title. |
| 0:08.9 | I absolutely believe that changing systems that make life unfair for people based on their |
| 0:13.8 | identities or their circumstances is crucial. |
| 0:16.7 | And I think we're fetishizing these changes in the sense that we're giving them an unrealistic amount of power over our minds and our feelings in a way that disempowers us from helping ourselves. |
| 0:28.5 | So today I'm going to share a message I received from a listener who lives in one of those holy grail Scandinavian European countries that we all imagine has like a perfect social |
| 0:38.7 | safety net and perfect conditions and perfect work-life balance. And we're going to talk about |
| 0:43.1 | what systemic change does solve or would solve and what it would not solve that you, for |
| 0:48.3 | better or worse, need to learn to solve for yourself no matter where you live. So let's get into it. |
| 0:55.7 | Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host Kara Lowentile, master certified coach and founder of the School of New |
| 1:01.6 | Feminist Thub. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a |
| 1:08.1 | life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live. Let's go. |
| 1:15.7 | So let's start with a message that I got from a podcast listener, and then we're going to talk |
| 1:19.8 | about what it means for your brain and what it tells you about how to solve your emotional problems. |
| 1:25.3 | So this listener responded to something I posted on social media about how many |
| 1:29.1 | women have fantasies of a non-life-threatening hospital stay just to get a break from the overwhelming |
| 1:35.2 | over-responsibility that women are taught to feel and have taken on in their lives. And among, I think, |
| 1:42.2 | the educated, more liberal-leaning population, I think there's this |
| 1:46.2 | belief that Europeans have better work-life balance because they have better systems and better |
| 1:51.2 | values, and that therefore they're a lot happier, and they're not burnt out, and they're not |
| 1:56.3 | stressed out, and it always feels like you're on vacation, right? And they have better systems like universal |
| 2:02.7 | health care and better parental leave and vacation leave policies and that those are what make |
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