376. Exactly How to Negotiate As A Woman, with Negotiation Expert Kathryn Valentine
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.5K Ratings
🗓️ 9 January 2025
⏱️ 32 minutes
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Summary
Ever felt anxious about negotiating a raise, bonus, or promotion? Worried about being labeled “difficult” or facing backlash for advocating for yourself? You’re not alone—research shows that women face unique challenges in workplace negotiations, thanks to deeply ingrained gender dynamics.
This week, I’m joined by Kathryn Valentine, a negotiation expert who turned her own experience of facing backlash into a career teaching women how to advocate effectively. Tune in to hear Kathryn break down the roots of the gender negotiation gap and share practical strategies to help you negotiate with confidence—and get what you deserve—without fearing the fallout.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to unfuck your brain. |
| 0:08.3 | I'm your host, Cara Lowentile, master-certified coach, and founder of the School of New |
| 0:13.3 | Feminist Thub. |
| 0:14.5 | I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life |
| 0:20.0 | on your own terms, one that you're |
| 0:22.0 | truly excited to live. |
| 0:24.0 | Let's go. |
| 0:27.5 | Hello, my friends. |
| 0:29.0 | It is January, and it is that time of year when you are going to be getting your reviews, |
| 0:36.2 | you're going to be seeing if you got a bonus, |
| 0:38.6 | you're going to be potentially asking for a raise, asking for promotion. |
| 0:42.3 | And we know that there's a negotiation gap between women and men. |
| 0:46.6 | So I have brought on a genius in this space to talk to us about why that exists, what's |
| 0:52.3 | happening with it, and how you can close it. She has so many |
| 0:55.8 | scripts for you, but I told her you're only allowed to have one or two because I want you to learn |
| 0:59.9 | to use your brain. But that will also motivate you to go track her down and read the rest of her work. |
| 1:04.6 | So welcome, Catherine, Catherine Valentine, such a pretty name also. Will you please tell us, |
| 1:09.6 | like, how did you become a guru in this |
| 1:12.3 | area? Thank you so much for having me on. I'm really, ever since I've read your book, I'm so |
| 1:17.6 | excited about having this discussion with you. The way that I came to this work is that I was an |
| 1:23.2 | overachiever, I think like much of your audience. And I ended up being escorted out of my MBA internship |
| 1:30.1 | because I negotiated in the way that I'd been advised to. But it turns out that advice was not |
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