Hey friend, welcome to Job with Julie hosted by me Julie Slattery.

This podcast is a listener-supported outreach of authentic intimacy which is a ministry

that helps people make sense of God and sexuality.

Well, I think it probably goes without saying that married sexuality

can be pretty complex.

And at authentic intimacy, as a ministry, we spend a lot of time addressing the challenges that married couples can face.

We get messages all the time from couples who are trying to navigate things like erectile dysfunction, mismatched libetos, sexless marriages, and recovery from betrayal trauma.

Now, I've been doing this work for a while, but my guest today has even more experience.

Dr. Michael Seitzma is somebody that you may be very familiar with, and he has 25 years of experience as a sex therapist. He's the founder of Building

intimate Marriages and the co-author of the book Secrets of Sex and Marriage

Eight Surprises that make all the difference. Dr. Seizma is both extremely knowledgeable and also very practical.

So find a comfortable spot, grab your Java, and listen into my conversation with Dr. Michael Seitzma.

Well, Michael, you and I are on a cruise right now.

We're speaking together on a Family Life Marriage

Cruise, which is super fun.

It's just beautiful out here.

It is so people might be enjoying a little bit of the background music of the lounge but

hey we are having coffee so it's job with Julie. We are it's actually pretty good coffee. I haven't had my first step yet. You better go ahead. There you go. But I thought I take advantage of the time that we have some downtime here on the cruise to just glean some of your expertise.

You have been doing sex therapy for couples for how long?

Since 98 that's been my primary focus. I did some before that I started working with

sex addicts in 1990 and so worked some with couples in that context but it was 98 that I really began to shift to doing

marital sex therapy and focusing in specifically on that and finished my

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