#550 What to Do When Sex is Painful

Christian Sexuality - Java with Juli

Authentic Intimacy®

Julislattery, Society & Culture, Authenticintimacy, Ihatesex, Christian, Relationships, Pornography, Biblicalsexuality, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Ismasturbationasin

4.8 • 1.6K Ratings

🗓️ 20 January 2025

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

Sexual pain makes sex challenging, stressful, and a source of tension rather than a source of pleasure. Sadly, it’s a very present reality for many couples, and one that can quickly erode sexual intimacy for years or even decades.

Many women are told to ‘watch porn’, ‘drink wine’, or ‘relax’, with no clear diagnosis found and no real solution given. Today’s guest, Jess Setiz, knows this reality all too well. Now a trauma-informed pelvic health practitioner, Jess struggled through painful sex for 8 years before she and her husband were able to find a solution that really worked. She joins Juli to share what she learned, and how she’s helping other women enjoy pleasurable, pain-free sex.

Guest: Jess Seitz

Website: painfreeintimacy.com

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0:00.0	Hey friend, welcome to Java with Julie, hosted by me Julie Slattery. Now, if you're a long-time
0:06.9	listener to this podcast, you know that painful sex was part of my personal story. And sadly,
0:14.0	I'm not alone. Actually, most women experience painful sex at some time in their life.
0:20.4	And while the physical pain is real, sometimes the fallout emotionally and relationally can be even worse.
0:27.6	My guest today, Jess Sites, experienced painful sex, and it was a heavy burden for the first
0:33.6	eight years of her marriage.
0:35.5	Her husband and her struggled through tears and failed attempts
0:38.6	and unhelpful answers and even bad advice with nothing that worked. Thankfully, she and her
0:45.1	husband found an approach that went beyond some of the traditional advice that help them
0:50.2	overcome this issue once and for all. And that's what we're going to be talking about today.
0:54.9	Jess is a trauma-informed pelvic health practitioner who, through her own practice at
0:59.9	pain-free intimacy, offers women and couples a holistic and comprehensive approach to painful sex.
1:07.2	As someone who went through this herself, Jess is compassionate and incredibly knowledgeable and wise.
1:13.6	This is going to be an encouraging, hope-filled episode for anyone who's been struggling in this area.
1:18.2	So let's jump into my conversation with Jess Sites.
1:24.6	Well, welcome to Job with Julie and my guest today.
1:28.1	Jess Sites has an expertise that I'm so excited to dive into.
1:32.8	Jess so thankful to have you with us.
1:35.8	I feel like every single time I speak on marriage and sexuality,
1:40.7	somebody has a question about painful intercourse.
1:46.7	Listeners may know that this was part of my story for many years. I had no idea where to go for help. And you really are in the space of
1:53.7	helping women trying to figure out why does sex hurt? What can they do? What are their barriers?
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