614 - How to Defend Yourself Without Being Defensive

Modern Mentor

Macmillan Holdings, LLC

Careers, Business, Management

4.3 • 720 Ratings

🗓️ 14 September 2020

⏱️ 11 minutes

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Being wrongly accused of something at work feels awful. Your instinct is to defend yourself, but you don't want to be perceived as defensive. Follow this road map for mounting a mature, professional, and effective defense. Read the transcript. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Subscribe to the newsletter for regular updates. Join the conversation on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/business-career/careers/defend-yourself https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/QDTModernMentor https://twitter.com/QDTModernMentor https://www.linkedin.com/company/modern-mentor-podcast/

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0:00.0	Welcome to this week's episode of the Modern Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rachel Cook. In today's
0:15.1	episode, I'll be talking about how to manage a situation in which you're being blamed for something
0:20.3	that wasn't your fault.
0:22.0	How can you defend yourself without being labeled defensive?
0:26.9	One more thing before I get to the main event.
0:30.1	Author Irshad Manji, featured in episode 612 of this podcast, gives a quick and thoughtful
0:36.1	reply to another question about how to get
0:38.8	diversity right in the workplace. This week I asked her, what are some ways to solicit ideas
0:45.2	and opinions from diverse groups without leaving anyone feeling like a token representative?
0:51.2	To ensure that people don't feel like tokens, avoid labeling them in the first place,
0:56.7	even in your own head. Nobody is just black, or just a woman, or just queer, or even just a straight
1:05.0	white guy. Every human being is so much more than meets the eye, because each of us has a backstory.
1:12.9	So even when somebody articulates their opinion, dig deeper.
1:17.8	How did you come to that opinion?
1:19.9	Is it personal experience?
1:21.9	It is?
1:22.6	Great.
1:23.4	Can you tell me more?
1:25.4	Or, is it something you study on your own?
1:28.7	Hmm, interesting.
1:30.2	Will you share a highlight or two from the research you've done?
1:34.5	Asking authentic questions, and of course, listening to the answers, are the hallmarks of respect,
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