66: Saving Our Relationship By Having an Open One feat. Bayleigh and Swaggy C
Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram
Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram
5 • 5.5K Ratings
🗓️ 22 March 2023
⏱️ 62 minutes
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Summary
Using two separate samples based on the U.S. Census, researchers found that one-fifth of the population in the United States has engaged in consensual non-monogamy at some point in their lives and if the trend continues, the only place this number is going is up. So… are open relationships the bandaid, the cure or the curse of our generation? And furthermore, how do you actually start one? Like for real? Let’s talk about it on this episode of Lovers and Friends.
We have a loaded conversation between our starring guests on this episode, Swaggy C and Bayleigh. A married couple with a new baby, but an old, inactive desire to explore consensual non-monogamy within their marriage. There are a lot of themes to pull from this interview like: what happens when non-monogamy is one person’s yum and the other’s yea I guess if that will make you happy… OR the dangers of using non-monogamy as a punishment for unfulfillment… OR the joys/ struggles of having a partner who is supportive of your desires, but not all the way cooperative. However what stood out to me in this episode is how to go from being curious to actually being actively open...for real.
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Open relationship reading list From Dr. Monica:
IG Educational Pages
· Evita Sawyers | @lavitaloca34
· Chanee Jackson Kendall | @chaneespeaks
· Jhen | @monogamishpod
· Kevin Patterson | @polyrolemodels
· @polyamouraousblackgirl
· Leanne Yau | @polyphiliablog
Books
· Pre-Order | A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Daily Reflections for the Consensually Non-monogamous | Evita Sawyers
· Love is Not Colorblind | Kevin Patterson
· Polysecure | Jessica Fern
· The Ethical Slut | Hardy & Easton
· More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory | Ricket & Veaux
· Polyamory & Jealousy | Ricket & Veaux
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome back to meditation mindset. Time spent alone is the most important. |
| 0:06.0 | Sir, are you still in the bath? |
| 0:08.0 | Yes, I'm listening to my podcast. |
| 0:10.0 | Can I come in? |
| 0:12.0 | No, no, no! |
| 0:13.0 | Just need to grab the core clipers. Don't worry, I'll cover my eyes. |
| 0:16.0 | What? |
| 0:17.0 | Whoa! |
| 0:18.0 | Come on, we've got a falling gun. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm still not looking. |
| 0:24.0 | And I'm not listening to my podcast. |
| 0:26.0 | Don't want batting, mere catting. |
| 0:29.0 | Simple! |
| 0:30.0 | A lot of people start the conversations around consensual non-monogamy when there is an option. |
| 0:36.0 | What if I came to you today and I was like, like, the hurry example? |
| 0:39.0 | I met someone, this is how I feel about this person, how would you react to that? |
| 0:42.0 | Would you say, great, go for it or would you say, whoa, I'm not ready for that yet? |
| 0:46.0 | I don't know, I think my thing is we'd have to like talk about how we're gonna start. |
| 0:50.0 | Like if we're really serious about this or not, because like we've had someone in conversation where we are like going to start |
| 0:55.0 | and then we're not gonna start and it doesn't ever seem like real. |
| 0:57.0 | I think, and this is like, I hope this is not offensive in any way. |
| 1:02.0 | I'm more of like, if it happens, it happens. |
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