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Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

71: Love At First Sight Almost Sabotaged My Marriage

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

Sexuality, Society & Culture, Relationships, Health & Fitness

55.5K Ratings

🗓️ 26 April 2023

⏱️ 32 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, I want to break down what I know about “knowing” someone is the one, before you know their true character. This isn’t meant to knock anyone who chooses to mate this way, because culturally a lot of us subscribe to the importance of instant attraction even if we don’t think we do - but instead to provide you with some knowledge that I wish I had before letting love at first sight lead me astray. Love at first sight is a global phenomenon - meaning no matter where you go, there it is in different languages, stories and beliefs.

In this episode I define what love at first sight is, explain why the brain likes to do it, provide insight into how love at first sight might just be another brand of discrimination, explain how it can be used wisely and also share the dangers of placing a lot of emphasis on how couples met.


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0:00.0

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And

1:16.0

eventually, after a night at a club, I was like, okay, fine.

1:19.3

Like you're so persistent and there's maybe something between us.

1:22.8

So let's see what this is.

1:24.0

So I lean into this person only for them as soon as I made that attachment

1:28.0

to start leaning back.

1:29.4

And now there I was, thirsting after somebody I wasn't even attracted to to begin with.

1:34.0

So I'm on this job where I was basically a freelancer in a city in Canada,

1:40.4

photographing the culture there.

1:42.3

It's not something I was passionate about.

1:43.9

It's not something that I was interested in and I for damn sure did not want to be in that given

1:47.4

city. And to boot, my project manager was someone that I found highly annoying.

1:54.5

So I'm lonely and I'm desperate and I'm confused and I'm on this stupid ass job.

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