Welcome back to the Articharm podcast. This is a show where we bring you actionable tips and strategies on how to better connect socially boost your emotional intelligence and navigate all of those awkward social dynamics. I'm AJ.

And I'm Johnny.

This is our decision making month and it's been a doozy. We started off with two amazing interviews, Dan, Arielie and Eric Weinstein.

How about that? Two people that we've been wanting to talk to you for so long and because of this show, we get to have an opportunity to have a great conversation.

Do you feel more decisive, Johnny? Absolutely. I feel more decisive.

We actually fired up. We had some great tips in those first two interviews and then we dove deep into our toolbox episode giving you that great decision making advice for all of our indecisive listeners.

Today, we're going to ramp with the Q&A episode and a deep dive into our mailbag, which you can reach questions at thearticharm.com or head on over to thearticharm.com slash questions to submit an audio question.

Now, we get a fair amount of questions from you on the topic of decision making. So we're going to dive into that. We're going to talk about letting go of your ex and of course how to deal with comparison, which I think we all struggle with in the social media age.

All right. First question of the day. Jack wrote us with this question. I'm 35 years old and work as a manager at a great restaurant and slash bar.

I'm not really enjoying my job anymore and I don't think I could do this long term. The pay is good and at this point, I basically make my own schedule.

My friends tell me I have the perfect job, but I'm not happy. How should I go about a career change?

Johnny, I know this is a question that we often find a lot of our students at bootcamp are struggling with as well.

Yeah. I mean, I'm trying to figure out, and this is all speculation about how Jack got into this line of work. And I'm wondering if it is a job that where he just kept getting promoted and kept getting offered some better pay

and then a better schedule. And he's and he's chill. But you know, I personally know when I got into my 30s, I started looking around and realized that I wasn't being stimulated mentally in the way that I wanted to be.

And so I had his thoughts as well, which led me into getting involved in self development in order to look inward to figure out what what it was that I wanted to be doing.

So, I mean, that's what I'm going to guess, but I can certainly understand it. I mean, at that time, he's already put in a decent amount of time at this job.

And usually what comes with that is, well, if I make this change, then I give up my what I've put into this. And that's, and that could be difficult for anybody.

It's also it's the same when people realize that their friends circles holding the back and they need to bring in new friends, but they don't want to lose what they have, but they don't know what's about to come in.

Right sunk cost. Yeah, we get very tied to the effort, time and resources we put into something, which often makes us less likely to make the decision to leave.

Yeah, and, and you know, his friends are telling him that he has the perfect job. Sure, his friends are seeing him that he gets to hang out late nights. He's working in a very social job.

He's not stressed out that he's making his own schedule. He's making his own schedule. So he's got plenty of time and he's got cash to burn because he's in the restaurant business.

Yeah, so he's coming home with some cash every night. And to them, I'm sure it does look like the dream job, right? They're doing probably nine to five jobs working on us, I've stressed out in the corporate, trying to climb the corporate ladder.

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