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🗓️ 2 January 2025
⏱️ 126 minutes
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0:00.0 | Why is people pleasing such a trap for so many of us? |
0:06.4 | There's a long answer and a short answer. |
0:09.4 | I think the short answer to that is that we have created an environment through social media |
0:16.3 | really predominantly that everybody's now seeking to measure up to somebody else rather than, |
0:23.1 | you know, focused on this internal locus of control where you can, you can really be vibrant |
0:27.7 | on your own. But the way that we function now as a society has changed that. And everybody's |
0:35.1 | comparing themselves to people that, you know, are insurmountable. And I find |
0:39.1 | myself doing this too. So, you know, I worship at the altars of, you know, Alex Hermose and, |
0:43.4 | you know, James Smith and all these guys that I see have, you know, millions of followers and make |
0:47.1 | millions of dollars. They're exciting and they're fun. And I'm like, how do I get to that, rather than recognizing in myself. Like I can just be happy with where I am. |
0:56.2 | It doesn't, it's a really great friend who said this to me that really resonated with |
1:01.5 | people pleasing, which you don't have to hate where you are to want to be better. |
1:07.9 | And when I heard that, I was like, that makes so much sense. And I think we've kind of taught |
1:12.1 | people that you have to like almost hate the way that you show up in the world in order to |
1:16.2 | want to better that. And I just, and I think that causes this idea of how do I measure up? And then |
1:21.3 | how do I make everyone else around me happy? Because that's, that's really what the world is, |
1:25.5 | you know, kind of built on these days. Yeah, draw the line for me between that's that's really what the world is you know kind of built on these days yeah draw the |
1:28.2 | line for me between that sense that we that we measure up but you know people pleasing isn't about |
1:35.3 | us it's about optic management it's about how other people see us it's about prioritizing their needs |
1:41.0 | over ours what why is that important what What's that got to do with it? |
1:46.6 | So I think it's for me, when it was, you know, when it was more of a problem. And I would say that |
1:52.2 | I'm a recovering people pleaser. It's funny, those things, it's one of those things that |
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