Are you willing to put in the work to have a successful long-term relationship?

It's impossible to maintain anything 100% of the time in any relationship, let alone a marriage.

So knowing and understanding that, things are going to teeter,

talker, go back and forth up and down, but the commitment to being there and sitting in it and

figuring it out is what's going to get the longevity aspect. I feel like we give up really

quickly on relationships when we're not happy, but over long periods of time,

there are going to be times where you're happier than other times. Furthermore, when we say

the work, whoa! Get away! Bitch, go! Go!

Excuse me guys, this is a serious podcast about serious topics and I'm a serious person.

Let's try that. But I believe it's high time that we qualified and quantified what is meant by

the work. A zombie relationship is one where it just eats your brains and it consumes all of your

energy and it's insatiable. Wow! Okay, so I can share a point in my life where I felt like

that's what my relationship was doing. It was like just eating, eating, eating, eating away at me

and it did cause resentment. Nina Westbrook is a licensed marriage and family therapist who

also happens to have children with and be married to an NBA All-Star. We're going to talk about

that unique combination and what it takes to make it work on this episode of love is in friends.

Hi there, lovers and friends. Welcome to the podcast called the same Dan thing I just said.

My name is Shambu Dram. I'm a public facing sex and relationship expert who loves talking about

all things sex, love, relationships, dating, connecting, attachments and as a result, breakups and

this episode is not about that. Nina Westbrook is not announcing her break from her long-term

successful marriage. Quite the opposite, she's talking about the work to stay together, which is why

I thought it was interesting to begin this conversation through the lens of breakups specifically because

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