Let's talk about toxic relationships, baby.

Let's talk about you and me, or more accurately me and our guest this week, comedian, Lea Lamar.

I have felt love at first sight before, but now what I realize, it was just familiarity at first sight.

Chaos, familiarity of my childhood dynamic I had with my dad and the family dynamic that I had.

And it was butterflies to me or toxic now.

That feeling of adrenaline and that rush of insane energy is actually me going to fight her flight.

And that's why I felt in my childhood home, fight her flight.

That's not safety.

And every single one of those guys that I had love at first sight with just absolutely destroyed me, destroyed me.

I almost think that even from the first guy I dated, every guy after that has just been a bandaid on top of that guy.

And it was like time to rip the band-aids off, let that heal, and then date someone who's not going to wound you.

That was a bar, you know it.

Honestly, I just sat here and I was like, damn, that's a clip.

So how does one fix their desire for relationships with people that will inevitably become broken?

And furthermore, how does that same kind of person stop themselves from aligning healthy with boring?

And that's what we're talking about on this episode of.

Hi there lovers and friends. Welcome to the podcast called the same damn thing. I just said my name is Shambhu Dram.

I'm a public facing sex and relationship expert.

And about 10 years ago, I was one of those experts who could talk a good talk, but it definitely wasn't reflective in my own intimate life.

And I realized that I had a aha where I said I was having great sex.

And I learned a lot about my body that I was applying in real time, but in terms of reciprocal, mutual, and uplifting, empowering relationships.

I was at a high shortage of those and mostly because I was attracted to people with toxic tendencies.

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