‘A Man at Church Thinks We Should Marry — I Disagree’
Ask Pastor John
Desiring God
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🗓️ 30 December 2024
⏱️ 9 minutes
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| 0:00.0 | Every week our inbox gets some very interesting scenarios we need to work out together like this one today from an anonymous young woman. |
| 0:11.7 | Hello, Pastor John, and thank you for your ministry and for this podcast. My question for you is about how I can respond in faith when someone insists that it is God's will for you to be together, but you disagree. |
| 0:24.5 | Here's my situation shortly after joining a new church. A guy I barely knew asked me out on a date, |
| 0:29.9 | and I declined without feeling any regret then or since. Many months have passed, and he's still |
| 0:36.0 | convinced that we are meant to be together to the point that he corners me after church events to reiterate that I'm exactly the wife he's prayed for. |
| 0:44.7 | My rejection of him hurts him, and I don't want to hurt anybody, but I'm also mystified and a little angered by the way he treats me and his insistence that this is God's will. |
| 0:55.0 | I've asked him to leave me alone and will draw others in as needed in the church. |
| 0:58.9 | My question for you is, what's a God-honoring way to address a church situation like this |
| 1:03.3 | when someone is convinced they know God's will for you and you disagree with them? |
| 1:10.0 | I have five suggestions for how to deal with a man |
| 1:14.4 | who thinks it's God's will for you to marry him |
| 1:18.1 | when you don't see it that way. |
| 1:20.9 | Number one. |
| 1:22.5 | First, step back and look to the Lord |
| 1:27.3 | and ask him to intervene in this situation in a way that will |
| 1:33.0 | protect you spiritually and physically and will help this man think and feel in a more mature |
| 1:41.2 | and biblical and discerning way in In other words, pray. And when you have prayed that, |
| 1:49.8 | take hold of a specific promise in the Bible and then specifically trust that promise for your |
| 1:59.1 | situation with him. For example, Psalm 25-8, good and upright is the Lord. |
| 2:06.0 | Therefore, he instructs sinners in the way. He leads the humble in what is right and teaches |
| 2:12.0 | the humble his way. He'll guide you. It's a great promise. Or Psalm 91.14, because he, and you can say she in this |
| 2:21.7 | situation, because she holds fast to me in love, I will deliver her. I will protect her because |
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