Hello, hello and welcome back to a bit fruity, the show where we don't really care if you have sex in the United States Senate hearing room

because on the list of the most egregious humanitarian violations that take place

in there consensual gay sex isn't even making the top 50.

So last week someone on Instagram sent me this essay called Annoying Queer People are

not why we are oppressed, which was about the way queer people police each other's behavior,

casting out the weirdest and freakiest among us, and how we tend to cling to this belief that

being less annoying, you know, less flaming, less out and in people's

faces will make it more likely that the rest of the world will stop discriminating against us.

This mindset is one that I have at times adopted personally. It's one that I think

about literally all the time. It's one that people online have used when they try to make the case that I and people like me are like bad representations for the community because we're too flamboyant or something. And it's a topic,

respectability of politics that I wanted to dig into on this podcast since I started

the show. So I reached out to the author and today we are joined by Devon Price to talk about

what it means to be the wrong type of queer person. Devon Price is an author of the book's Unmasking autism,

LASiness does not exist and unlearning shame.

Devon Price, welcome to the show

and thank you so much for being here.

Hi, Matt. I'm so happy to have this conversation and I'm so glad this is a problem that's been annoying other people as much as me.

I want to start today's episode by showing you an image. This is a meme that circulates the internet,

like kind of a lot and it usually gets a lot of traction. In this case it was

tweeted recently by a cis gender white gay man named Tyler who's like a you

know conservative influencer on Twitter. He wrote the caption,

Know the difference. We are not the same.

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