This is an issue that can cause such tremendous resentment in a marriage because if your parents are violating me and you won't stand up to your parents, what it means is you've chosen your parents over me.

And so, you know, leaving your parents doesn't mean being mean to your parents.

It doesn't mean forsaking the relationship, what it means is prioritizing.

And literally, the word leave in the Hebrew language means to let go of.

And so, it means if I had to choose, I'd choose my spouse over my parents.

Welcome to the Marriage Today podcast. We are Jimmy and Karen Evans.

And this podcast exists to help every couple succeed in marriage. Welcome Karen.

Hi. It's so good to be here.

We're going to be talking today about something that causes a lot of problems.

A lot of problems and a lot of divorces, unfortunately, we're talking about in-laws.

And specifically about leaving your parents about this issue of authority that a lot of people get confused about.

You know, the Bible says that you leave. A man will leave his father and mother and cleave into his wife.

So, the leaving there is assumed that you're going to leave your mother and father cleave into your wife.

The first principle there is marriage takes privacy.

You can't be around your family all the time and have a good marriage.

You have to have privacy. Now, we would see our children.

We, Brent and Stephanie, our son and daughter-in-law, lived two doors down from us for years.

And we would see them once or twice a week maybe.

We never went down to their home without, you know, having an invitation.

And that was great. But if you're with your family every day, in other words, you're just,

it may be you work with your family, whatever, there has to be some dedicated time that you're alone to have the ability to bond together.

Well, part of the problem here is when we leave home, we're under our parents' authority when we're at home.

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