It's a funny thing because me in this moment I'm like, oh, I could have just said I am this and just like left it at that.

But for me a few years ago, that didn't feel like an option at all. Like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like a lady like. I've had a love.

This is Unlady-like. I'm Kristen. And today's episode was inspired by two unladies who wrote in separately in a similar space with being bisexual. So both of these unladies are married to men and in the course of these long-term relationships

They have realized that they are in fact bisexual

But they don't exactly know what to do with that self-knowledge of their sexual orientation.

Should I fully come out?

What does that even mean?

What does that look like? Will it impact my relationships? And I'm also,

unladies listening, posing these questions to y'all, because I know that at least statistically speaking there are some of you

listening who can absolutely relate and here's why. The majority of people who

identify as bisexual are women and most of those women do end up partnered with men and come to find out according to a 2021 study in the Journal of Bisexuality,

by women in relationships with cis straight men are the least likely among all

bisexuals to be fully out. They might not be out at all, they might only

be out to close friends, maybe only their partner. And the question we're going to start exploring

this episode is why? Is that clinging to

bisexual privilege? Is that avoiding by phobia? Is that grappling with this in-betweenness of not being straight enough to feel fully

at home in straight spaces or queer enough to feel accepted in queer spaces of essentially not knowing

exactly where you belong.

And something that we don't get into this episode, but is an important factor to point out is how

motherhood can also intensify this feeling of invisibility and bisexual erasure and I also don't want to suggest that

bisexuality is exclusive to cisgender women in fact I heard from a non-binary unlady who is bisexual, who is kind of

dealing with the flip side of what we're exploring today where they are constantly having to come out and how

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