Can You Love Your Spouse, but Not Like Your Spouse?

MarriageToday with Jimmy & Karen Evans

XO Marriage

Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Kids & Family, Parenting, Society & Culture, Christianity

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🗓️ 14 March 2024

⏱️ 13 minutes

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Summary

Welcome to the MarriageToday Podcast! Jimmy and Karen Evans here, and in this episode, we're tackling a question many of us grapple with: what to do when you love your spouse but don't particularly like them. Get ready for a candid conversation as we share our personal insights on navigating those moments. We emphasize that it's okay to have times when you're not best buddies, but it shouldn't shake your commitment to the marriage. Join us as we delve into controlling emotions, the distinction between liking and loving, and the power of agape love. Stick around for a special mention of our book, the 'I Will' Devotional, and details on counseling services available through xomarriage.com/help ---------------------- Need Marriage Help?: https://xomarriage.com/marriage-help/ Need a romantic Date? Register here for XO24 Conference from the comfort of your home! :https://www.xonow.com/pages/xo-now-at-home More resources from our team: https://store.xomarriage.com/products/married-into-the-family Grab a copy of our new book: https://store.xomarriage.com/collections/black-friday-exclusives/products/i-will ----------------------- Takeaways It is normal to have times when you don't like your spouse, but it should not affect your behavior or commitment to the marriage. Controlling emotions is crucial in maintaining a loving relationship with your spouse. Liking someone and loving them are not the same thing; agape love goes beyond emotions. The I Will Devotional and counseling services are resources available to help couples navigate challenges in their marriage. ----------------------- Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Question 00:35 The Real World of Marriage 01:31 Loving Your Neighbor 02:01 Dealing with Dislike 03:00 Controlling Emotions 04:27 Actions vs. Feelings 05:23 The Arrogance of Not Liking 06:22 Commitment in Marriage 07:20 Agape Love 08:17 The Naivety of Expecting Perpetual Like 09:45 Sustaining Love 10:43 The I Will Devotional and Counseling 12:13 Closing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:24.0	That's a laptop evolved with Intel Evo Platform. Welcome to the Mary State Podcast. I'm Jimmy Evans. I'm joined today by my wife
0:37.8	Karen. It's good to be here. Hey for being here Karen and this podcast
0:41.8	exists to help you thrive in your marriage
0:44.1	and also help you to solve problems, challenges you may be facing. Now we have a
0:48.1	question that someone has asked us in fact this question was in response to one of our
0:53.2	podcast and this listener wrote in and ask what do you do when you love your spouse
1:02.2	but don't like your spouse?
1:05.0	And what I hear in that, Karen, is they're committed to their marriage.
1:10.0	And on the bigger scheme of things, they love their they're committed but they don't like for whatever reason they don't like their spouse or whatever's happening and the first thing that comes to my mind and I want you to share how you feel about that is welcome to the real world you know I mean
1:26.1	there's going to be lots of times when you don't like your spouse you know when you
1:30.3	you're going through things sometimes it's just you're in a bad
1:32.9	mood sometimes it's just something has happened or something and you just you know you
1:37.6	don't like them and my feeling is they shouldn't be able to tell the
1:41.0	difference you know if know, if your ability to love is controlled by your emotions, that's part of the problem.
1:50.0	If you're controlled by your emotions, you're not going to be able to love people in a Christ-like manner.
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