Hi my name is John Kim I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and

revelations I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose because

self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. So I'm not calling you a dummy. This is called Communication for Dummies as like, you know, that franchise of books. books okay so this is going to be a

101 on communication but it's going to be specific because communication is

very broad and there's so many things under the umbrella of communication and I'm sure you

know you know active listening and all the things that we talk about this is going to

be very specific this is sniper over a shotgun.

I want to talk about one thing because this is something that we don't talk about when we talk about communication and that is the subtext.

So, did you know that only 3% of communication is the actual words?

97% of communication is body language, language tone and what I want to get into subtext.

All right, two levels of communication.

Content is the first level and that is what is literally said right so if your partner says I don't care if he's just a friend I don't want you to see him anymore

That is the content right that's on the surface underneath is the subtext and this is what's really important

so if the content is I don't care if he's just a friend.

I don't want you to see him anymore.

Underneath the subtext is what he is really trying to say,

and that is, I feel threatened by your friend right so that's an example of how

communication can if you're just reading what the person is saying on the surface, you're not hearing what's going on underneath, right?

And so because they don't teach us things like this in school, we don't know, right?

And I, and I gotta be honest with you, I,

I learned subtext through screenwriting

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