Coping with Conflict: Moving Beyond Losing Strategies

Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.4 • 978 Ratings

🗓️ 9 January 2024

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

Conflict is a natural outgrowth of two people trying to forge a life together and it presents a remarkable opportunity for growth if we allow it. When we disagree with our spouse, we often go to behaviors that lead to hurt and frustration rather than making a concerted effort to engage often counter-intuitive, but more productive and collaborative responses. In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins relationship coach Anne Nelson to discuss how relationships can grow and flourish, even in the face of conflict and difference. Listen to the episode to learn more about: * The losing strategies we instinctively use in our relationships * The growth opportunity provided through conflict in marriage * How to handle differences with greater maturity and wisdom This interview is also available on our YouTube channel HERE. Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Strengthening Your Relationship teaches strategies for growing into deeper integrity, deeper honesty, and deeper courage in your life and relationship. The principles in the course will help you address conflict more constructively and show you how to create a marriage where two people can thrive both together and independently. You can learn more about this marriage-revolutionizing course HERE.

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0:00.0	Welcome to Conversations with Dr. Jennifer, a collection of interviews on the topics of relationships, sexuality, and more, all featuring Dr Finlayson Fife. Good to see you.
0:25.0	Yes, thanks for having me.
0:28.0	So we get to talk about coping with conflict,
0:32.0	but before we do that, can you tell our audience a little bit about yourself? talk about
0:34.3	conflict but before we do that can you tell our audience a little bit about yourself?
0:35.1	Sure so I'm Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fice. I do a lot of online teaching
0:41.1	and coaching specifically around how to have more intimate
0:45.8	partnerships and specifically passionate relationships so I do a lot of work
0:49.9	around sexuality and intimacy and And I wrote my dissertation on Latter-day Saint women
0:57.0	and sexual agency, so I do a lot of work
1:00.0	within the Latter-day Saint community,
1:02.0	but also just kind of conservative Christian beliefs
1:06.6	that can impact sexuality and freedom within one's life.
1:11.6	And so a lot of my work centers around helping people
1:14.9	within those frames to make sense of their lives
1:18.6	and relationships.
1:20.3	Which is important work, very important work.
1:23.8	So today though we're gonna talk about coping with conflict and you know often people say that
1:29.0	you know they don't want a conflict in their marriage and and you know I've heard you say that contempt undermines marriage but not conflict.
1:37.9	So if you explain what you mean by that.
1:40.3	Sure.
1:41.5	So I think, you know, again coming from some of the religious perspective sometimes you know this cannot happen anywhere but where there's this idea that if you're happily married you're just floating along seamlessly in pure bliss at all times or else something's
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