I can't act as if nothing happened right I can't restore it I can't just get another I can't replace

and I can't just redesign a new life when there's a relationship or a person in your life that's significant enough that you know,

I can't live as if nothing's happened, nothing's changed, I can't do that.

Hi, my name is Father Mike Schmitz and this is the Center presents,

whether this is a loss of a relationship, loss of status,

loss of health, anything that's familiar to us that we're going to miss.

We have four typical responses to loss and those four responses are to restore

to replace to redesign or to relinquish. So the first one is restore.

And so basically, I want to get this thing back.

So if you want to think relationship,

it could be like you're pining after that person

to try to take them back. But it doesn't have to be relationships. It could be like you're pining after that person to try to take them back.

But it doesn't have to be relationships.

It could be something like, okay, again, for our students,

they have this life and for roughly four years

they live this life on campus

that has a particular kind of community to it.

It has particular friends to it.

It has a rhythm to it.

It has a lot of freedom from responsibility to it.

I mean, of course, there's some responsibility, but there's a lot of freedom. And so here is the loss of that. And there's this desire to, I just know, I want to, I want to get that back. I want to live as if nothing has changed. I'll do whatever I can to act as if it didn't even happen.

You know what I'm going to do is I'm going to try to recreate a life that looks exactly like the life I left. I'm just going to try to restore this.

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