the Venmo is Darma Punk's with an X NYC. I'm going to give a talk on

creating a secure base and how that's done, why it's important, the value of it, and how we can even do it in a meditation practice.

I'm just going to start out by saying that evolution provided our species with this massive survival advantage.

We have these massive, especially for our size,

frontal lobes which allow us to develop sequential reasoning and we can inhibit our

aggression and our fears so that we can bond with others and trust and build lasting affiliations because essentially in our species we don't have shells,

claws, we don't run fast, we don't have wings to fly. So our single survival advantage is that we can affiliate,

organize, protect each other. We can hunt, gather, share resources.

We can build shelter together.

We can organize defenses.

We can plan, allocate resources and so all of that from means that from our birth our

core drive is to connect that's. There's no other core drive in us. It's even the famous studies by

Harlow showed that even it's a stronger drive than for food and for water.

The need to connect, to be safe, to be seen.

It's really, if we can summarize that we're born with this need to be seen by others, to matter,

to be importing in the eye of another human being, because that's essentially where all of our survival as a species came from.

And the greatest threat to us over the course of evolution was when we would lose the attention of others, eventually

not matter to others and be ostracized from our groups and be thrust out into the world alone where we'd have nobody would

share their resources and we'd be vulnerable to attack. We do all of the from early, we're born prematurely. We can't take care of ourselves. We express all of our needs through crying and gestures and movements and we learn from this not just we

learn the nature of other people and the nature of other people the nature of the caregivers around us

store what we'll see are really durable beliefs and expectations about

others. So we express, in expressing our internal states,

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