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Survive so with, tonight's talk,

un complaining, grousing, riping, anger, boundaries, forgiveness,

a fun talk.

So bonding provides, of course, our species the advantage of safety and number and shared resources. So we have innate

impulses to connect with others and to retail the important painful or infuriating experiences and events of our lives.

If we've been dumped, if we've been in a car accident, if we've been undercut by someone at work, if our neighbors are playing

the music too loud at night, if someone gives us a dirty look, if someone cuts us off on the road we want to talk about it to secure support

and emotional validation from others and all of that was especially vital for our ancestors who were

continuously wary and anxious about tribal membership because the greatest threat to their lives would have been

tribal expulsion. So it was really important to go to other people and talk over and over again

about our resentments, our issues, our concerns, and so forth

because that's a way we would build affiliations and alliances.

And for sure, it's absolutely beneficial at first

in that after we have a negative experience with someone or a negative event going, finding someone

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