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🗓️ 14 May 2024
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0:00.0 | Welcome to Conversations with Dr. Jennifer, a collection of interviews on the topics of relationships, sexuality, and more, all featuring Dr Finlason Fife. |
0:25.0 | Welcome, everybody. glad to have you here. |
0:27.0 | We're going to be talking about emotional affairs today, how to understand infidelity, why people do it, why people |
0:36.8 | create emotional affairs, why it's so easy for us as human beings to do this. And we'll be taking some of the questions I'll be going through some of the |
0:45.9 | questions that came in through the Facebook group she writes well I don't know if |
0:51.2 | she a baby a he I'm just wondering everyone's thoughts on spouses having relationships or |
0:57.8 | friendships with the opposite sex. How much is too much? Where do you draw the line? How can you keep things from turning into an emotional affair or a sexual affair? |
1:09.0 | How open and honest do you feel your spouse or you need to be with each other if you have close friends |
1:14.7 | that are the opposite sex? Is it possible to not cross lines while having close friendships |
1:20.8 | with the opposite sex? So first of all I would say that about you |
1:24.6 | know 80% of emotional affairs start out as friendships and this is according to |
1:38.0 | Shirley Glass's book called Not Just Friends. And so the primary, one of the ways that Shirley Glass talks about what happens in emotional affairs is that a boundary that has normally been around the couple around the partnership gets drawn around the partner, one of the partners and the affair |
1:58.8 | partner. |
2:00.2 | And so there starts to be a way in which the spouse is being excluded from that friendship. |
2:07.6 | That is, there are secrets. |
2:10.2 | That is the primary definer, right, of infidelity is that you are keeping information from your spouse that you know she or he would want to have. |
2:24.0 | What starts to happen is you are keeping your spouse |
2:26.8 | from information you know they would want to have. |
2:29.8 | And so as soon as, you know, infidelity is not defined by the sexuality of the relationship per se |
2:37.2 | Right it's not about someone who's taking off their clothing that defines now it's infidelity. It's as soon as you are |
2:44.6 | excluding your partner and creating a boundary with another person. And |
2:48.5 | importantly you are sharing information that builds connection with another person and reduces |
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