EP 224: Reader Question – How do you mend the relationships you hurt while you were drinking?
This Naked Mind Podcast
Annie Grace
4.7 • 2.7K Ratings
🗓️ 2 November 2019
⏱️ 8 minutes
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Summary
So many of us have hurt the ones we love because of drinking. What’s the best way to go about trying to restore those relationships now that we’ve kicked alcohol to the curb? And how do I mentally prepare for the possibility that some may not be able to be repaired? Find out Annie’s best advice for how to start the healing process.
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| 0:00.0 | This is Annie Grace and you're listening to this naked mind podcast where without judgment, |
| 0:16.0 | pain or rules, we explore the role of alcohol in our lives and culture. |
| 0:20.2 | Hi, this is Annie Grace and I am here answering readers questions and today I have a question |
| 0:32.6 | from someone I'm going to call B. She says, hi Annie, I've been listening and reading |
| 0:36.1 | to everything about you and your story. I've had a hard couple of years in terms of drinking, |
| 0:40.4 | I had five miscarriages which took its toll on me. I always thought I could control everything |
| 0:44.5 | in my life and then was faced with the fact that I had no control of getting pregnant. |
| 0:49.1 | Eventually I have a two year old boy but my anxiety about the whole process and everything got |
| 0:53.5 | the better of me and I started drinking again to just calm my nerves and my husband and I are |
| 0:57.6 | now separated. I guess my question is how do you mend the relationships that you hurt while you |
| 1:02.4 | were drinking? First of all, I just want to say a word about miscarriage. I feel that miscarriage |
| 1:10.5 | is something that in a way is very similar to drinking. It's something that we feel shame about |
| 1:16.3 | and unbelievably really because we feel some sort of fault in the whole thing and I think that's |
| 1:22.1 | just not true and it's amazing how many women have experienced miscarriage. If you look at it |
| 1:28.3 | statistically, it's a huge, huge percentage of women yet it's something that even among women, |
| 1:34.0 | we don't often talk about and so I just want to just say that you have a lot of courage to talk |
| 1:40.0 | about it because I think it's something that you've talked about more and we should come together more |
| 1:43.8 | in some of the pain and I think it's very similar to our relationship with alcohol. It's something |
| 1:50.2 | that we don't talk about that hurts ourselves, hurts our families and some of the places takes |
| 1:54.8 | lives and we're just afraid to talk about it. I think just saying, saying something and just |
| 2:02.1 | good for you for that. I guess the second part of your question about how do you mend the relationships? |
| 2:08.3 | It's so hard because you know for you something has fundamentally changed and you look in the |
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