If you have a lot of authority and a lot of influence or a lot of responsibility over anything,

then the more ownership you take, in other words, the more responsibility or a sense of that this

is my problem, the better things tend to get.

What's up guys? Welcome to Five Minute Fatherhood. So I don't know if you guys have ever read the book Extreme Ownership. It's a Jocko Willink book. He's a, he's a Navy SEAL. And it has a really basic thesis, which is that as a leader, you're better off assuming that everything is your fault,

and the probably more positive way of saying that is,

is to take ownership over everything.

And this is extremely important for fathers to hear

because there are so many breakdowns that happen in the family.

And I know that for so many of us men,

our first question is, is this my responsibility?

Is this my fault? Is that that

attitude or, you know, this meal is the way it is or, you know, things are getting clean or,

you know, we're not on mission as a family or, you know, my relationship with my wife isn't

great or whatever challenges you face as a family. And I would just say that it's not true that it's your fault, 100% your fault.

I don't think that's true.

However, if you pretend like it was 100% your fault, things will get much better, much faster.

And that's a really interesting paradox to decide that I'm going to

treat every problem as if it's my problem. And when it comes to the household, and basically what

Willink is saying in the book is that that's what great leadership looks like. If you have a lot of

authority and a lot of influence or a lot of responsibility

over anything, then the more ownership you take, in other words, the more responsibility or

sense of that this is my problem, the better things tend to get. And this is really where

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