Episode 204: Limit-Setting with Adolescents - You're Not a Cop, You're a Judge

Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: Parenting Teens Into Adulthood

Kenneth Wilgus, PhD, P.C.

Christian Parenting, Christianity, Teens, Education, Teenagers, Kids, Kids & Family, Parenting, Religion & Spirituality, Adolescents, How To, Parenting Teens, Parents

4.9 • 714 Ratings

🗓️ 4 March 2025

⏱️ 22 minutes

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Summary

Today is the first in a series on limit-setting with adolescents. Probably the most important change a parent can make in being more effective in setting limits with teenagers is to shift your job description from a "cop" to a judge. Understanding what you as a parent can and cannot control makes a huge difference in how and when you set limits for your teen. When your teen is being most defiant, always remember the power of "the smile." You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here: https://a.co/d/hBnlbzI Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected] Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

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0:00.0	If you enjoy this podcast, would you mind leaving us a review?
0:03.7	This is how others find our podcast.
0:14.1	Welcome back to Feeding the Mouth That Bites You, a weekly podcast guide on parenting teens
0:19.1	and launching them into the world.
0:21.1	I'm Jessica Pfeiffer, and as always, I'm joined by psychologist and author, Dr. Ken Wilgus.
0:26.8	Hey, Dr. Ken.
0:28.4	Hey, Jessica. How you doing?
0:30.3	I'm good. I'm good. And, you know, I know that we've covered over the last couple of episodes
0:36.2	some really important topics, and I'm hoping we can get a little bit
0:39.5	further into the practicality of how to enforce these limits and consequences that we've just set for our kids.
0:48.3	So the last couple of episodes, we discussed our freedoms list. And the next we discussed our
0:53.9	expectations and consequences
0:55.4	list. But you know there's going to be some pushback from the kids when we've got these
1:00.3	expectations and consequences that follow. So we need to kind of get to the ends and outs of
1:07.9	enforcing these limits that we've just set. And I was wondering if you
1:11.1	could help us with that today. Absolutely. So I did a parenting conference just this past weekend.
1:16.6	And I love when parents tell me that they're implementing the book and it's so empowering, really.
1:26.2	And then we get questions.
1:29.0	And there's, you know, there's different ins and outs that some parents have, it's not
1:34.5	as logical to them as to others and so forth.
1:37.1	And so I'm always wanting to empower parents.
1:40.2	So if the freedoms list empowers parents to remove the inevitable control battles on and on and
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