Episdode 203: Reviewing Planned Emancipation Part 2 - The Expectations and Consequences List

Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: Parenting Teens Into Adulthood

Kenneth Wilgus, PhD, P.C.

Christian Parenting, Christianity, Teens, Education, Teenagers, Kids, Kids & Family, Parenting, Religion & Spirituality, Adolescents, How To, Parenting Teens, Parents

4.9 • 714 Ratings

🗓️ 25 February 2025

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

This week we continue our review and clarifying the process known as "Planned Emancipation." Last week we talked about the "Freedoms List" and this week we take on a completely different list; the "Expectations and Consequences List." We review the purpose of having this list (i.e. to reduce conflict at home, the strengthen your effectiveness) as well as the critical factors in implementing this list. We review many questions like "what do I do when my teen is constantly late in the mornings before school?" "How can I get her to do her chores around the house?" as well as issues of cursing, school grades, curfew and much more. You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here: https://a.co/d/hBnlbzI Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected] Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

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0:00.0	Welcome back to Feeding the Mouth That Bites You, a weekly podcast guide on parenting teens and launching them into the world.
0:15.0	I'm Jessica Pfeiffer, and as always, I'm joined by psychologist and author, Dr. Ken Wilgus.
0:21.7	Hey, Dr. Ken.
0:22.9	Morning, Jessica.
0:24.2	You doing okay?
0:25.3	I'm good.
0:26.9	Well, and you know what?
0:30.7	This is actually a carryover from last week's episode.
0:33.0	Last week we talked about the freedoms list. This week we are clarifying the expectations and consequences list, which is very different.
0:40.3	And we want to make sure that we had two episodes so we could really, you know, reiterate how different they are and what each one holds.
0:50.3	That's a good goal because the freedoms list comes first.
0:53.3	It's actually in some ways more important.
0:56.0	And secondly, you do not blend these two lists together.
0:59.7	This is a very different list.
1:02.5	Okay, so explain to me, why don't you define the expectations and consequences list
1:08.3	and explain to me why you think it's so important for parents to
1:11.0	implement this. It's basically the limits, the rules in your house. You can't do this. You can't do that.
1:18.3	There's nothing wrong with that in your household. But the way you do it can be either ineffective or effective.
1:27.1	I think I mentioned last week that i was recently talking to a dad
1:31.2	that was still doing the hey this is the rule you're supposed to blank so do it do it now and he was
1:38.5	getting very angry and all this kind of stuff and his son was bowing up and so forth so the way he was doing it was becoming ineffective you can kind of stuff and his son was bowing up and so forth. So the way he was doing it was becoming
1:45.9	ineffective. You can kind of push an eight-year-old around with your voice, but with teenagers,
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