Episode 206: Anger and Yelling Make You Weaker as a Parent

Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: Parenting Teens Into Adulthood

Kenneth Wilgus, PhD, P.C.

Christian Parenting, Christianity, Teens, Education, Teenagers, Kids, Kids & Family, Parenting, Religion & Spirituality, Adolescents, How To, Parenting Teens, Parents

4.9 • 714 Ratings

🗓️ 18 March 2025

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

Today we continue with our series on effective limit-setting with adolescents. Some parents think when they lose their temper with teenagers they "hate to do it" but it "needed to happen." Jessica and Dr. Ken talk about how yelling only confirms a teenager's suspicion in the first place... that you're a bully not really a parent. Instead we talk about ways to avoid losing your temper and what to do if you still occasionally get pretty angry with your teenager. You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here: https://a.co/d/hBnlbzI Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected] Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

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0:00.0	If you enjoy this podcast, would you mind leaving us a review?
0:03.7	This is how others find our podcast.
0:14.1	Welcome back to Feeding the Mouth That Bites You, a weekly podcast guide on parenting teens
0:19.1	and launching them into the world.
0:21.1	I'm Jessica Pfeiffer, and as always, I'm joined by psychologist and author, Dr. Ken Wilgus.
0:27.0	Hey, Dr. Ken.
0:28.8	Hi, Jessica.
0:30.3	We have been talking a lot about limit setting with our adolescents the last few episodes.
0:37.1	And we've talked about a few things that we could use to help us with disciplining our
0:43.3	adolescents.
0:44.3	We talked about being a judge and not a police officer.
0:48.3	That was a good episode.
0:49.3	We talked about adolescents learn from experience, not words.
0:52.3	And then going on with the words this week.
0:56.6	Yeah.
0:56.9	We're talking a little bit more.
0:58.3	Let's dive right into the next part of limit setting with our adult adolescents.
1:05.2	Yeah, yeah, which is anger and yelling make you weaker as a parent.
1:13.6	So, you know, you and I were just talking about anger and with kids and how it seemed like people didn't bother so much about whether they yelled or whatever in the past.
1:26.9	And I, you know, I don't think anyone's happy when they've lost it with their kid.
1:32.3	But the current thinking is more like if you raise your voice with your child,
1:38.0	if you lose your composure, that's damaging and traumatizing your child. And I think that's a bit exaggerated.
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