Hello, beautiful beans and welcome to this focus episode. So this focus episode is an extract from one of

my older episodes, just to bring it to the forefront

and remind you for topic that is really important that I've spoken about in the past.

If you would like to hear the entire episode, just click on the link in the show notes and it will

take you to the full episode. I hope you enjoy. Duncan.

Number one, you have to learn how to let others down when it comes to decisions about

your own life.

And look, even the term letting people down, I think should be used for way less than what

it is used for.

This idea of, oh, I don't want to let my parents down,

that statement I don't even agree with it existing anyway, and I'll explain this.

Letting someone down is, for example, when you say to your friend, I'm going to help you move

houses, don't hire a removalist, I'll be there at 8 a.m. And then not rocking up. That's letting someone down, right?

Or saying, I'll pick you up and I'll take you to the airport, but not doing it. That's letting someone down. Or you being part of a group assignment at uni and just not pulling your

weight. That's letting your team down. So those are ways where you are letting someone down,

where you commit to something and without giving an explanation or without prior warning, you just don't fucking show up. You don't come to the table and pull your

weight. That is letting somebody down, okay? Letting someone down doesn't really apply for things

that have to do with your own life and it only indirectly affects other people. The other person or party or your

parents are choosing to set themselves up for this potential disappointment. That is their

choice. That was not your choice. They chose to have an idea of what you were going to do with

your life. They chose to tell you about it and then they chose to potentially get disappointed

about it. That is 100% on them.

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