Holiday Times & Christmas with the Narcissist

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 14 December 2021

⏱️ 18 minutes

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Summary

As Christmas is getting closer, I want to talk about how to deal with a narcissist during not only this holiday, but any other type of celebration, such as birthdays or other family events.

We'll explore two different scenarios, one for those separated or divorced from a narcissist, and the other for those who have to spend the holidays with a narcissist. I'll also share tips on communicating and planning these events to reduce conflict to the minimum, and how and when to respond to the narcissist's messages.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- Why is it so challenging to celebrate any holiday in peace with a narcissist

- What I've learned from my experience with my narcissist ex-husband during the holidays

- The advantages of planning ahead for these events, and how it can help us in court if we need it

- How to structure our messages when communicating our plans with our narcissist ex-spouse

- How to approach communication when we must spend the holidays with a narcissist

We have an advantage when it comes to any holiday - we know precisely when they will happen. This allows us to plan, minimise and mitigate the conflict by creating the best-case scenario for our kids and us. Still, conflicts can appear, even if we plan ahead and do our best to avoid them. We must remember to stay in our lane, treat ourselves with kindness and avoid self-judgement if that happens.

Resources:

- Join my Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme™ https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse

- Join my Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse

- Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/

- My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the narcissistic trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Strawson and I'll be sharing with you
0:09.5	awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive.
0:16.8	I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe you.
0:21.3	And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation.
0:30.2	Hi, and I'm so thrilled to have you on today's episode on the narcissistic trauma recovery podcast, where I'm going to be talking to you
0:40.1	about the holidays. Now, I'm specifically talking about the holidays because over here, I'm
0:46.3	obviously over here in England, and we have Christmas coming up in a couple of weeks.
0:53.0	And I wanted to share really with you a little bit about Christmas,
0:56.0	but actually this is for any holiday, because I know I have many different cultures and
1:00.5	religions that listen to this podcast. So I don't want anyone to feel excluded because actually
1:05.4	what I'm about to share with you is for any holiday that you potentially may have to deal with a narcissist. But I want you to
1:14.1	start to think about now where we do know we have the holiday season coming up if you're listening
1:18.3	to this now, that you know it's coming up. And that gives you some power. Don't do what I
1:25.4	used to do and do nothing. And then it got to kind of Christmas Eve or
1:29.9	even on Christmas Day and it would suddenly all hit me. I hadn't planned anything. And I was just
1:35.1	sitting there, feeling ashamed, feeling full of guilt, judging myself. Normally it was just me and my two
1:41.5	children. So I'd kind of allowed myself to get to the stage where
1:46.3	I'd had this time where I could have created other things and I just hadn't done that. But I also
1:53.0	don't want you to judge yourself if that has been you because I certainly don't judge myself now as
1:57.6	doing what I needed to do in that particular moment. But I want to be right by your
2:01.4	side. I want to be your Caroline in your pocket. So I want to really help and guide you at this
2:06.2	particular time to really maybe after you've listened to this podcast, just to think about what
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