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I was in prison for 17 years, four months.

I think it's three weeks and six days.

To say Robin Westgate has had ups and downs in her life would be an understatement.

She has been to hell and back.

I didn't actually recognise that my husband was dead.

I kept expecting him to turn up and say, are you going to behave now? Are you going to pull your head in? If you come home,

you're going to behave. And the incredible thing about Robin's story is her remarkable arc.

After years of domestic violence and then years of prison, she now works as a domestic violence consultant.

Society can change, but society has to want to change

and people have to sort of go, I've got a role in this.

And often people don't know how to do it.

So we, through the training, offer hopefully, ways of doing that.

This is All In the Mind, I'm Sana Khadar.

In Australia, week after week, we hear stories of horrific murders of women by current

or former partners.

And this year, we've seen a spike in deaths with one woman killed, on average, every four

days.

Fed up and fired up. Across the country, thousands marched.

There has been a huge public outcry, a demand for greater funding of domestic violence services,

legislative change, and also the need for cultural change.

But what does that really mean and how is it practically implemented? And could a better understanding of a thing called the bystander effect be the key?

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