How Is Trauma Dumping Affecting My Relationships?

Getting Curious with Jonathan Van Ness

Sony Music

Science, Education, Society & Culture

4.9 • 21.5K Ratings

🗓️ 12 March 2025

⏱️ 42 minutes

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This week, JVN sits down with existential psychotherapist and author Dr. Sara Kuburic, widely recognized as the @Millennial.Therapist in Instagram, to delve into the phenomenon of "trauma dumping." We’re exploring the nuances between sharing personal experiences and overloading others with unsolicited trauma narratives. Dr. Kuburic sheds light on the psychological motivations behind trauma dumping, its impact on relationships, and how individuals can navigate these interactions with empathy and boundaries. Dr. Sara Kuburic is an existential psychotherapist, consultant, writer, and former USA Today columnist, known for her popular Instagram account, @millennial.therapist, where she shares insights on mental health and self-discovery. Born in Yugoslavia and raised in Canada, Dr. Kuburic completed her doctorate in psychotherapy science at Sigmund Freud University in Vienna. Her diverse background and personal experiences living through wars have fueled her passion for helping others live authentic, meaningful lives. In her new book, "It's On Me," she guides readers toward self-awareness, self loss, and finding out who they truly are. You can find Dr. Sara Kuburic on Instagram @millennial.therapist Follow us on Instagram @CuriousWithJVN to join the conversation. Jonathan is on Instagram @JVN. Transcripts for each episode are available at JonathanVanNess.com. Find books from Getting Curious guests at bookshop.org/shop/curiouswithjvn. Our senior producer is Chris McClure. Our editor & engineer is Nathanael McClure. Production support from Julie Carrillo, Anne Currie, and Chad Hall. Our theme music is “Freak” by QUIÑ; for more, head to TheQuinCat.com. Curious about bringing your brand to life on the show? Email [email protected]. Go to nordvpn.com/jvn with our link, you’ll get an extra 4 months free on the 2-year plan and it’s risk-free with Nord’s 30-day money-back guarantee. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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1:03.0	Hey, curious people. I'm Jonathan Van Ness and welcome back to another episode of Getting Curious. Today we're diving into a topic, a subject, or is it a verb that I and many
1:13.4	in my life, but especially me, have been guilty of. And that is trauma dumping. We've all been there,
1:20.1	either on the receiving end of the trauma dump or the one doing the trauma dumping. Honey,
1:25.4	why do we do it? Is this a modern phenomenon? Or has this always been around, but we just started calling it trauma dumping? Honey, why do we do it? Is this a modern phenomenon? Or has this always been around,
1:29.9	but we just started calling at trauma dumping? What does trauma dumping say about me? Why do I want to
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