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Where did you learn the do's and don'ts of dating?

From your high school friends, an older sibling, your mom?

Many of us long for a happy, romantic relationship,

but we don't always get reliable advice about how to meet and bond with a potential life partner.

You might have learned about the Birds and the Bees in biology class, but I bet you didn't

get much instruction about how to navigate a first date or diffuse your first big marital fight.

If we're being honest, a lot of our relationship

advice comes from Taylor Swift songs, and the research material my expert guest in this episode

focus on a lot rom-com movies. And we'll probably talk about like initiating relationships,

but also maintaining them. We'll just like cover the cover the whole gamut. Kind of, yeah.

Okay, great.

All right.

Eli Finkel of Northwestern University and Paul Eastwick from UC Davis are both world-renowned

relationship experts.

They've recently launched a podcast called Love Factually, which explores what rom-coms get

right and wrong about how humans really find love.

Eli and Paul turned to films like Clueless, Lala Land,

and when Harry met Sally, to compare their plots to the actual scientific research on love.

Their goal is to figure out the facts from the fiction.

So in honor of Valentine's Day, I just had to include Eli and Paul

in this episode in our how-to season,

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