Hello and welcome to The Upgrade, the podcast from the team of LifeHacker, where we help you improve your life one week at a time.

I'm Alice Bradley, editor-in-chief of LifeHacker.

And I'm Jordan Calhoun, LifeHacker's deputy editor.

And today, Jordan, we are helping people tackle a notoriously difficult challenge.

That's right.

It's a challenge made even more difficult by the information age, by the pandemic,

and, you know, by some people just suck it.

That's right. We're talking about dating. And here to help us with that challenge is behavioral scientist, Logan Yuri. People are often wrong about what will make them happy long-term.

And we think we have preferences, but those preferences are more fungible than we think.

And so part of the work that I do is actually helping people

understand that they should throw out the checklist and focus on different things.

Logan is a dating coach and the director of Relationship Science at Hinge. Her new book,

How to Not Die Alone, The Surprising Science that Will Help You Find Love, is all about how we're

dating wrong and what we can do to fix our approach to fine lasting love.

So, Jordan, here's the thing about me.

Tell me.

I'm super old.

Here's how old I am.

Tell me.

When I was last dating, caller ID did not exist.

What?

Which meant you could conceivably, if somebody ghosted you, you could prank them, which I did.

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