Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, BTR.org. I'm Anne. I'm sure you remember what it was like when you were searching for help, maybe for your husband, hoping to find the right program or therapist. That's why I started podcasting. I supported my husband through seven years of pornography addiction recovery and not one therapist during that time told me I was experiencing emotional

and psychological abuse and sexual coercion. I didn't want any other woman on the planet to be in

the dark. If you're like the majority of my listeners, you're experiencing the type of abuse that's

invisible and difficult to wrap your head around. Your husband is using porn or having

affairs or lying to you, and you're getting the same bad advice about how to improve communication

or your relationship. If you need support from women who totally understand, check out our daily

group session schedule at BTR.org slash group. We'd love to see you in a session today. One simple, anonymous way to help spread the word

is to click, follow, or subscribe to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast on your favorite

podcasting app. While you're there, every five-star rating helps make this podcast more visible

and will help save other women from getting the wrong kind of help, like a couple

program that will make this type of abuse worse. For those of you who follow or subscribe to this

podcast, thank you so much. Your support means so much to me. Jessica is on today's episode.

She holds a bachelor's degree in media studies and has an in-depth understanding of how the media impacts

our lives and shapes our attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors. Jessica is a feminist and activist

who brings this important lens to the topic of pornography, sexuality, and relationships.

She is also on the board of Culture Reframed, a nonprofit organization founded by Dr. Gail Dines, whose mission is to

build resilience and resistance to hypersexualized media and porn. Welcome, Jessica.

Thank you. I'm glad to be here. Jessica, a lot of women come on my podcast and share their story,

and they say, my husband lied to me about porn. It was devastating. And when I told my friends

and my family, they were like, calm down. It's not that big of a deal. Why are you freaking out?

He's such a good guy. Even feminists say porn is fine. So as an anti-porn activist, let's talk about why feminists should be opposed to porn, and some

feminists absolutely are. And then later, let's talk about why lying about porn is such a big deal.

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