Do you sometimes feel that you have this deep rooted need to be rescued and looked after?

If that sounds like you, then today's podcast episode is just for you.

Because I'm going to share with you exactly how I used to feel about this and what I've done to really resolve that and to actually rescue myself.

Hi there, massive welcome to Trauma and Narcissism Redefined podcast, your weekly dose of education,

inspiration, and hope that there is life. In fact, you can thrive after narcissistic abuse

and trauma. It does not have to be a

life sentence. I want to share something with you in this episode that really came about. I've just

completed one of my trainings with the Internal Family Systems Institute around children and

adolescents. So IFS, in case you don't know, is an evidence-based parts therapy. It's a psychotherapeutic

model that looks at those sub-personalities that we all have within us, and we call these protector

parts in internal family systems. And IFS works on the premise that we all have a core self,

true self, authentic self, whatever you want to call

that source or essence, that have traits of things like compassion, clarity, confidence,

curiosity, connectedness. And we're born like this. And it's always there, just like on a

cloudy day, the sun is still there. And then as we are experiencing

our childhood, because as children, we're pretty egocentric. So anything that happens around us,

we see as a reflection of ourselves because we need a reason for it. So if our parents get a divorce,

it's because of me. If I'm being neglected, it's because of me. If I'm not getting picked

for a team, it's because of me. I'm not getting picked for a team it's because of me

everything brings back to really a burden and negative cognition about ourselves I'm not

good enough I'm worthless I'm unlovable I don't matter and in internal family

systems we call this an exile so a real wounded younger part of ourselves that

...