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Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.4 • 978 Ratings

🗓️ 9 August 2022

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

It can be devastating when our partner expresses disapproval or disagrees with our thoughts and ideas. Many of us buy into the idea that when we enter into marriage we have locked down a partner that will love us no matter how immature we are. When we don’t like the messages we get from our partner, it can feel easy to go look for “cheap” validation outside of our marriage, rather than use what our spouse is telling us to improve ourselves. In this recent podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Dave Noyce and Peggy Fletcher Stack of The Salt Lake Tribune's Mormon Land podcast (@mormonland) to discuss the recent viral "MomTok" video. In this discussion, Jennifer talks about how the lack of strong moral development in individuals can lead to vulnerabilities within a marriage. Listen to the full podcast to learn more about... * Well-intended messages that interfere with our ability to create intimate marriages * Teaching our youth to value chastity and fidelity while celebrating their body and sexuality * The importance of normalizing the process of growth that takes place in a healthy marriage * Dealing with disapproval and disappointment in our relationships

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0:00.0	Welcome to Conversations with Dr. Jennifer, a collection of interviews on the topics of relationships, sexuality, and more, all featuring Dr Finlayson Fife. life. Thanks for joining us today on Mormon land where we explore news in and about the
0:34.8	Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I'm Senior Religion reporter Peggy Fletcher
0:39.4	Stack. I'm joined by managing editor Dave Noise who oversees the Salt Lake Tribune's faith coverage.
0:45.0	Hello, Dave.
0:47.0	Hi, Peggy. Over the Memorial Day weekend, a woman who has been part of the Mormon Mom's Tik- Talk network told her millions of followers that she was getting divorced.
0:56.8	The reason, she said she and her husband had participated in what she called soft swinging.
1:03.5	Though unverified, the video of her talking about it went viral
1:08.4	and has been reported widely and salaciously on social media.
1:13.7	Many questions remain about this story, but whether it is true or not, it does shine a light
1:18.8	on the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and its teachings about sexuality in marriage.
1:24.7	Here to talk about these questions via Zoom is Jennifer Finlason Fife, a licensed therapist
1:30.4	in Chicago who specializes in working with latter-day saint couples on sexuality and relationship issues.
1:37.0	Jennifer, welcome.
1:38.0	Thanks for having me.
1:39.0	Okay, so the church is pretty clear on its standards, chastity before marriage and fidelity after but it has
1:45.5	also said that what couples choose to do within their marriage is up to them.
1:50.9	Would swinging somehow be allowed under these standards?
1:54.0	I can't imagine it, no.
1:56.0	So is there really a swinging phenomenon among Latter-day Saints?
2:03.9	How do you make sense of this?
2:05.4	So, you know, some people have questioned
2:07.0	whether or not the story is even true.
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