Choosing a life partner might be one of the most high stakes decisions we ever make in our lives.

The right partner can mean the difference between ending up happy or traumatized, healthy or unhealthy, financially stable or unstable, confident about ourselves, or highly insecure. When we meet

someone romantically, they have the potential to amplify and add to all of the good in our

lives or slowly poison it. So today, I don't want to talk about the generic qualities that make

someone a good partner, like kindness, loyalty, or the ability to be a proactive

teammate. No, in this video, I want to share what I've learned after 17 years of helping

people find love about what specifically makes someone right for you. And this insight isn't just

going to help you spot the right person for you when you see them.

It's also going to hold a very important key to overcoming rejections that your confidence may have

suffered from in the past. So first, let's talk about how we wind up thinking someone is right for us.

Picture a scenario. You meet someone who appears to be

exactly the kind of person you see yourself with. They look like your type, face, hair color,

body shape, ethnicity. It all lines up with a picture you've had in your mind. They're charismatic

and charming in the ways that you

find attractive. They carry themselves how you hoped they would, have the kind of sense of

humour that you love, and plenty of what I call in my program's unique pairings. They're goofy and

sexy, ambitious and able to have a good time and be playful,

confident and humble. Whatever the exact cocktail of this person's personality, it's pretty

close to the exact blend of things that you look for in a person. The phrase right on paper is something we use

for someone that we see on an app or who superficially has a certain job, age and profile.

But there's also such a thing as right in my heart, which is when based on the moments we've

had with someone, our heart is fully convinced that they are right for us.

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