We're excited about them. We're looking for excuses to see them.

So when they say, yeah, you know, it's possible. We go, it's possible.

Now I can go and have sex with them.

There's a line that menus in early dating that is a little bit

swindly. This is a word that me and Audrey coined from the show, The Tender Swindler,

to swindly, to do something that is not in the other person's interest for your own ends.

I.e. don't you fucking swindly me.

Now, one of the ways that a guy might try to swindly you in the beginning of dating is when you

try to bring up the idea of relationships. You say to them, what do you think about relationships?

And they say, I could be open to a relationship with the right person.

Now, some people may be saying this sincerely. I could imagine someone saying,

yeah, I'm open to a relationship with the right person.

Or I could imagine the swindly who says, I could be open to a relationship with the right person.

I could be an astronaut. I could be a pillar. I could be a Pokemon. I could be anything you see.

I could be a dancer. When that person says it, it's exploiting a loophole that says,

yeah, there's a possibility. Now, let's not talk about it anymore.

And with that person, you can find yourself going down the path of dating them. Also,

not it's not just that they placated you by saying that. It's that in the back of your mind,

it's a way of pushing off any difficult conversations yourself.

Because if you really want to, we're a biased judge aren't we? If we really want to see someone,

if we have a lot of chemistry with someone, if we're excited about them,

we're looking for excuses to see them. So when they say, yeah, you know, it's possible. We go,

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