There's some self-patients being kind to yourself when whatever it is that you're hoping for or

planning for is taking longer than you want to get there.

Hi and welcome. there. you thinking with me Louise Fletcher and we haven't recorded together for a while

feels a long time doesn't it yeah feel like hello stranger and which it wasn't planned in any

particular way it was just how things worked out but it's nice to see you again and we didn't have any particular plan you'll be shocked if you're a regular listener to hear that that we didn't have a plan.

So what would we thought would be good would be to have a catch up and find out what's happening in each other's

arty worlds. So that's what we're going to do today and we hope something

useful comes out of it. But if it doesn't, hopefully it'll be entertaining. So instead of doing

what have you been up to this week, I suppose we're just going to launch right into, what have you been up to in general?

You know how often I come and I say we've been to Dartmouth more and it just rained?

Mm-hmm. We went to Dartmoor and we had five days of uninterrupted sunshine.

It was like heaven on earth, it was absolutely glorious. I did quite a lot of just lying on the grass. I read

a book and a half. I also did some just lying on the grass, like listening to the birds.

Yeah. It was just so, I don't know, it was like this little kind of magic hotspot my daughter's doing a level revision we did some lying on the grass chatting together about like future life plans and

exam anxiety and all of that stuff and also some of it was I didn't really have much choice because the neighbours are doing

some building works and whether or not their cherry-picker thing destroyed our phone line. We had internet speeds of all of 1 megabytes.

So that meant that very occasionally I could manage to open a window and then I just got circling this work this

way which was really good fun in the last few days of having the membership open. So I've had a really, really, really good

lesson in letting go. There is nothing you can do about this it is what it is

and there we go that's how you deal with perfectionist tendencies and

feeling like you've got to do all the things all the time you just go somewhere you can't.

Do you know I just saw a Mel Robbins Instagram reel and it was it was like so mind-blowing to me that what she said and it's so obvious but she said

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