This is Pillow Talk brought to you by Killer and a Sweet Thing.

I'm Eileen Kelly and I'm Jacob Safarian.

On this podcast we normalize sexual experiences by allowing the people who live them to speak for themselves.

On today's episode, we're joined by Professor of Human Sexuality at New York University, Dr. Jana Rangalova.

She's been quoted in Teen Vogue, Cosmopolitan, and Huffington Post.

In addition to her research, she founded the Casual Sex Project,

an online forum where people of all ages share honest accounts of casual encounters.

Dr. Jana, welcome to Pillow Talk. So I guess let's start off with how would you define the term non-monogamous?

Non-monogamous just means, well, non-monogamous in and of itself just means that you are, or in this case, I am not romantically

and or sexually involved with only one person, but multiple people and you can do that in a non-consensual way which is the way most

people do it aka cheating or you can do it in consensual ways which is you know with the express

knowledge and understanding of everybody involved so if you have a

partner right now I don't, but when I do have

partners that's always understood that and very explicitly negotiated, that we will be at least

sexually not exclusive.

Got it.

And so what are the common types of non-monogamous relationships?

Yeah, that's a good question.

It can come in lots of shapes and forms.

When I teach about this, I like to show this graph by a

poly activist called Franklin Voe who created in 2010 I think it's a big graph

it's like this mess of forms and sizes and shapes and things and overlapping you know

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