Hello friends it's you a you a here for I guess a quickie with me I hope this is as

enjoyable for you as it is for me it's not every day we get to have a quickie together so I'm gonna

enjoy our time but like the title says this is going to be a quick one.

Julie and I just came back from South by Southwest and it was as always

epic inspirational and exhausting but we were so lucky because we got really good seats at the Jay Shetty talk. And as many of you know, we love Jay Shetty, we've been following him for a long time whatever your

opinions are about him i think he is a very smart marketer but also he knows how to present

information in a way that just sticks.

He's very relatable in that way.

So all the controversy aside, I still think he is bringing value to the world.

And his talk was about how we can feel lonely even if we're in close

physical proximity to someone else like sitting on a couch with someone or

going to dinner with someone and he's talking about this in the context of relationships.

Many couples can still feel lonely in a relationship.

And why is that?

And one of the main reasons is because he's found that a lot of couples just use that time on stupid things like coexisting together.

So not really spending meaningful time connecting or fighting about trivial things,

wasting time on things that don't matter.

And it made me think about the fact that it's not just in relationships,

but in dating too, we spend so much of our time wasting our time

on trivial things that we don't spend enough time connecting or building a stronger connection. I really want to dive deeper into that

because I think there's a way for us to change that around so we can spend more time

connecting. So Dr. John Gottman, you've all heard of him,

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