Okay, I have a question for you.

No, don't start with a question.

Yeah, I'm going to ask you.

So, as we were raising our kids and we would compliment them,

do you think we compliment them more about their performance or their character?

I want to give the right answer.

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Do you think we complimented them more about their performance or their character?

I think the only one I can answer that question is them.

I do think we knew.

We knew, but we were taught well, we were coached well, we knew it should be on character, but I know as an athlete I often celebrated athletic accomplishments. Like, oh, you're so good at that

sport and not necessarily that that's bad

but we're going to talk about why character

we need an expert to help us

and she's sitting right here

Kathy Cook is back in the studio

I wish Kathy would have parented right beside us

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