Redux: Dark Fantasies, Part 2

Dear Sugars

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Boston, Wbur, Sugar, Cheryl Strayed, Society & Culture, Dear, Relationships, Advice, Steve Almond

4.6 • 5.9K Ratings

🗓️ 28 September 2024

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

This episode was originally released on January 20, 2018.

“I’m a 24-year-old woman who is completely and embarrassingly aroused by people who are confined to wheelchairs,” writes a woman who calls herself “Wishing to be Seen.” In her pained letter, she explains the possible origins of her isolating fetish and asks the Sugars for a way out: “I just want to have an orgasm with a real human rather than with my sad self, in my sad bed, sadly watching YouTube videos of women I feel I am objectifying and using.”

“Wishing to Be Seen” is plagued by a single, shame-inducing fantasy, which Dr. Ian Kerner terms her “core erotic theme.” Where do our core erotic themes come from? And is it possible to escape their grip? In part two of our Dark Fantasies series, Dr. Kerner returns to help the Sugars answer these questions and delve deeper into the world of sexual fantasy.

Dr. Kerner specializes in sex therapy and couples therapy. He’s also the New York Times best-selling author of “She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.”

The Sugars Recommend

“The Metal Bowl,” by Miranda July “The Erotic Mind,” by Jack Morin

Transcript

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0:00.0	W-B-U-R Podcasts, Boston.
0:09.0	The University.
0:10.0	The University of The universe has good news for the lost, lonely, and heart sick. The sugars are here, speaking straight into your ears.
0:22.0	I'm Steve Aulman. I'm Steve Allman.
0:24.0	I'm Cheryl Strade.
0:25.0	This is dear sugars.
0:27.0	Oh dear song, won't you please?
0:35.0	Share some little sweet days with me.
0:40.0	I check my bellwides every day.
0:50.0	Oh, in the sugar, you see in my way.
0:59.0	Hi Steve,
1:00.0	Hi, Cheryl.
1:01.0	So here we are part two of our dark sexual fantasies episode.
1:05.0	Listeners, if you didn't hear part one, we really recommend that you go back and listen to it before you listen to this.
1:11.0	You have to do it because you think of it this way it's like a sexual
1:14.2	fantasy you don't want to come in on the middle you need to be there from the
1:17.0	beginning that's right and you'll get to hear the first letter we
1:19.6	discussed with our guest dr ein kurner who is right here with us.
1:23.3	Hello.
1:24.3	He's a psychotherapist, sexuality counselor,
1:27.2	who specializes in sex therapy,
1:29.4	and he's also the author of the book, she comes first.
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