Hi there, thanks for showing up.

I'm Josh.

This is Darmopunks New York.

If you'd like to support my work, the Venmo is DarmaPunks with an ex-NYC. That's entirely how I continue as a Buddhist

pastor. I don't charge for anything I do.

And so tonight's topic is

reparenting in a meditation practice.

To discuss what reparenting is, we also have to cover concepts like the inner child, the inner adult, and the inner parent and some of the concepts about what

establishes a kind of inner child or regressive state.

Best way to start is to note, as I always do, that to achieve our most basic emotional and developmental milestones,

we really need to start out life with a primary caregiver who keeps us in mind, who understands our needs, helps with difficult

tasks and delights in us.

If we get that reliably, the parent doesn't have to be anywhere near perfect just good enough and roughly between 50 and 60% of us do get a good enough parent. We internalize a secure pay base and we know how to take care of ourselves who to attach to and when to ask for help. We're more confident in stating our needs. But even if we have a good enough parent, a good enough mother, father, there still will be times of emotional wounds where needs will go and met.

Attention will be unrepaid.

Times that we need support will not be understood.

And if there were patterns of being regularly ignored, discounted,

treated as two week to explore if we were too needy if we were told we were too

needy no child is too needy but if we were informed we were too needy or

informed we were too weak to explore if we were constantly criticized if we were too weak to explore, if we were constantly criticized, if we were

placed in foster care, if we were ashamed or abused, or if we were constantly

relocated and forced to change schools,

many of us will internalize a sense

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