For me, I would much rather have lived with someone before I make the decision to marry them.

Because who knows what they're like in that environment?

Things change when you live with someone. Hey everybody. It's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life podcast. I am excited to share this clip with you today. Let's get into it.

So what was your question, Amber?

I was wondering, I've been, my boyfriend and I've been together a little bit over a year,

and we're starting to think about, you know, moving in together. And I was just wondering,

you know, when's too soon? Like, I've always kind of wanted to wait until, you know, we were talking more about getting married and things like that.

And I just wanted to get your advice on like, is it too soon?

Like, how do you know you're ready to move in with someone?

I think that's a very good and intelligent and important question.

There are lots of people I feel moving too quickly. They do it in the

throes of the passionate stage of the relationship. And look, who among us hasn't fallen in

love with someone and immediately thought, I just want to move in with them right this second right now?

And then they are really glad two months later that they didn't because it would have been too quick and they would have possibly wrecked the whole thing.

Now, the opposite of that I think can be just as bad.

If you, for example, and people have different beliefs on this, I'll just throw mine out there.

When I hear people say, well, I want to marry, I want to get married to someone before I move in with them.

I always find that to be a very dangerous concept.

For me, I would much rather have lived with someone before I make the decision to marry them.

Because who knows what they're like in that environment.

Things change when you live with someone.

And everything to some extent is sped up and intensified.

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