Rude
Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
Timber Hawkeye
4.8 • 907 Ratings
🗓️ 17 July 2020
⏱️ 8 minutes
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Summary
Do you only show the ugliest side of you (the rude, mean, and nasty) to the people you love the most while strangers see the nicest side of you? Is it possible my dysfunctional family cutting people out of their lives left-and-right has a silver lining? Can we be kind to everyone? Even to our family members? If you find value in this Podcast, please show your support with just $1/month through https://patreon.com/BuddhistBootCamp Thank you for being a Soldier of Peace in the Army of Love.
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| 0:17.0 | Welcome to the Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast. Our intention is to awaken, enlighten, enrich, and inspire a simple and uncomplicated life. Discover the benefits of mindful living with your host, Timber Hawkeye. |
| 0:31.0 | A friend recently told me she's pretty good at being kind and respectful, compassionate, understanding and patient with strangers, colleagues, and neighbors, for example. |
| 0:37.0 | But when it comes to her husband, she is very quick to anger, raise her voice, judge, belittle, |
| 0:42.1 | really show the ugliest side of herself and the same is true with |
| 0:45.3 | her kids and siblings. But she's apparently not alone. I witness people reserving the |
| 0:50.5 | worst behavior for the people closest to them, the same people they claim to love, |
| 0:55.2 | while being so gentle and kind towards strangers and acquaintances. |
| 0:58.8 | It's a behavior I have never quite understood, which has actually gotten in the way of many of my |
| 1:04.0 | relationships. So I recently asked online why we don't strive to be as kind |
| 1:09.2 | understanding or as patient as possible with the people we love? |
| 1:13.0 | Why do they have to see the worst in us? |
| 1:16.0 | Why is kindness so difficult? |
| 1:19.0 | Well, an overwhelming majority of readers and listeners |
| 1:22.0 | explained the reason they are short-tempered, rude, |
| 1:24.4 | and sometimes downright mean and nasty toward family members yet nice toward |
| 1:28.6 | strangers is because they feel more comfortable and secure with family who love them and are quote-unquote forced to put up with them |
| 1:36.2 | no matter what because they are family. And yes we spend more time with the people closest to us than we do with strangers or there's |
| 1:43.9 | something to be said about family being more likely to get on our nerves. But what |
| 1:48.8 | confuses me isn't other people's behavior, it's our own. How is it people feel so secure in their |
| 1:54.9 | relationships with family, so much so that they can be disrespectful and |
| 1:58.7 | resentful toward them? While I'm the other way around, I actually reserve the very best of me for the people closest to me, |
| 2:05.6 | the ones I see most often. And to better understand why I have such a difficult time relating to people on this front |
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